My progress

A reader asks,

Hey ive checked out your blog a few times, and i was just wondering something.  It seems like you should be at a higher level then you currently are.  Im wondering if its just me, or if its true and there is a reason.  The only reason i say this is becuase you have been going at it for almost 3 years it looks like.  You have gone to the pickup mansion , and had bootcamps.  So what im wondering is , with all that help from Brad and the coaches, and all this time, are you at where you think you should be by now? Thank  you very much and hope to hear back from you

Yeah I wonder this myself sometimes. But everyone develops at their
own pace and everyone starts from different places. I know an 18 year old who has far greater intuition and social freedom that me, even though he had started picking up chicks for a few months at the time, while I had already been doing it for two years. I recently met a 35 year old who knows nothing about the community, but just from hanging out with me a few times and following some advice I gave him, his game improved noticeably.

As for me, I started off with no social freedom, no social intuition, no balls, no life experience (never traveled, never joined clubs, never joined a frat, just school and work), no leadership skills, had only two girlfriends, and was plagued with nice guy syndrome (never had an opinion, never wanted to rock the boat, never wanted to stand out or stand up for anything, and did nothing but hope for the world to give me a break). I also had a ton of limiting beliefs: women didn't like sex, men should ask for permission, nobody likes Asian guys, I'm not good looking, I'm not cool, I have no qualities that people would like, I was not born good with women so I will never be.

All that shit I listed above has to be fixed. I'm still working on a lot of issues, one at a time. My identity is still rocky, I still have moments of nice guy, my social freedom could use some work. But I am making smarter adjustments by myself these days, which helps a lot. In the beginning I just did what the coaches told me to do without fully understanding why. It was good that I did it, but I had so little experience that I would have never figured them out by myself. After my first bootcamp with Love Systems, I went out for months, going out every weekend, but all I did was get the same result night after night: frozen with anxiety, barely able to approach 1-3 chicks a night. I don't blame Love Systems for this, because they gave me a ton of valuable information. I got laid within a week of my bootcamp, I believe. But all those issues I mentioned above prevented me from getting laid for another year and a half.

So yeah, I think I am exactly where I should be by now, given where I started from. I try not to compare myself with others, especially those more successful, because "how long you've been cold approaching" is not an accurate predictor of how successful you are with women. Instead I just look at my old entries and see how things have changed, or I count the number of lays I get per year and realize the rate is increasing exponentially:
1998 (1st GF): 1
2004 (2nd GF): 1
2007 (1st bootcamp): 1
2009 (pickup mansion): 4
2010: 8

Anyway, that's my story.