- Have a million dollars
- Go to Thailand
- Fuck 50 chicks, including a threesome (starting now)
- Master the Ashtanga yoga intermediate series
- Be able to do one armed hollow handstand pushups
- Perform to a crowd of 10,000
- Have positive experiences with my family
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Visualization exercise
The Secret says I must visualize and see my goals for them to come true, so here are my goals, to be achieved by my next birthday:
Good people
One thing I got out of The Secret was to focus on the good parts of people instead of what you want to change about them. That makes perfect sense, the more I think about their negative traits the more they are enhanced, if only in my mind.
So, I've listed the traits of the people i want most to change. These are, of course, people who are closest to me, otherwise they wouldn't bug the shit out of me:
Mom: compassionate, sensitive, strong, leader, caring, smart, responsible, helpful, moral
Dad: ambitious, familial, proud, social, helpful, moral
Baldy: funny, fun, responsible, loving, athletic, adventurous
W: loyal, ambitious, fun, caring, helpful, moral
The next time I talk to them I'll have this list out, which will help me focus on their good qualities.
So, I've listed the traits of the people i want most to change. These are, of course, people who are closest to me, otherwise they wouldn't bug the shit out of me:
Mom: compassionate, sensitive, strong, leader, caring, smart, responsible, helpful, moral
Dad: ambitious, familial, proud, social, helpful, moral
Baldy: funny, fun, responsible, loving, athletic, adventurous
W: loyal, ambitious, fun, caring, helpful, moral
The next time I talk to them I'll have this list out, which will help me focus on their good qualities.
Friday, February 18, 2011
Tuesday - Friday
Monday I started getting sick. Got a sore throat as I was singing. Didn't think much about it, but woke up Tuesday with a worse sore throat. After a few days' worth of experimentation, I've come to the conclusion that, when dealing with a wet cough, eat spicy stuff like ginger shots to break up the phlegm and drink lots of water. Spit out any phlegm no matter how little there is, and follow with water to moisten your throat. Doing yoga seems to make my body eject mucus easier, probably a combination of inverting my body and heavy breathing.
Anyway I'm sure that's all very lovely to read.
So I haven't gone out much, trying to nurse myself back to health. I have done yoga every day, meditated every day, ate greens every day except Tuesday. Played the bass every day.
My handstands are getting pretty good. I'm now holding myself up a foot away from the wall, able to balance myself for about a second, tipping myself over trying to create that balance. I'm also becoming stronger, able to do handstands a few times an hour.
Using GoodReader on the iPad, I am highlighting parts of How to Win Friends and Influence People, following one of the nine suggestions on how to get the most out of the book. One of the success stories from using the book: I wanted an account on a free service and signed up for one. A few days passed by but there was no response. Instead of writing an email to the admins asking when they would approve it, I wrote one complimenting their service and said I couldn't wait to play with their system. My account was approved within hours.
My bass teacher told me I need to play more to develop callouses on my fingers, and that I play too soft, I'm too much of a pussy. So today I started playing unplugged, forcing myself to pluck harder so I could hear the notes. Sure enough, my fingers are sore. It does feel good to play harder, though.
I watched Resident Evil: Afterlife. Meh. Alice had definitely gotten too powerful in the later movies, so wiping out her clones and disabling her T Virus was necessary. But the way they did it was way too convenient. Plus even without her powers she managed to do some inhuman things, like kicking a pane of glass perfectly into a dog. Anyway, it's not real so whatever.
I watched The Secret. Pretty good movie, I think they could have presented it in a more engaging way, but I agree with its message.
I'm a pretty positive guy, but I think with Brad as an example and after watching The Secret, I can use some work becoming even more positive. Focus more on the good qualities of people rather than what I wish they wouldn't do. Also I'd like to test out the law of attraction and see if I can make some random goals appear.
Bob is visiting! And Drewseph is back! Time for sushi buffet!
Anyway I'm sure that's all very lovely to read.
So I haven't gone out much, trying to nurse myself back to health. I have done yoga every day, meditated every day, ate greens every day except Tuesday. Played the bass every day.
My handstands are getting pretty good. I'm now holding myself up a foot away from the wall, able to balance myself for about a second, tipping myself over trying to create that balance. I'm also becoming stronger, able to do handstands a few times an hour.
Using GoodReader on the iPad, I am highlighting parts of How to Win Friends and Influence People, following one of the nine suggestions on how to get the most out of the book. One of the success stories from using the book: I wanted an account on a free service and signed up for one. A few days passed by but there was no response. Instead of writing an email to the admins asking when they would approve it, I wrote one complimenting their service and said I couldn't wait to play with their system. My account was approved within hours.
My bass teacher told me I need to play more to develop callouses on my fingers, and that I play too soft, I'm too much of a pussy. So today I started playing unplugged, forcing myself to pluck harder so I could hear the notes. Sure enough, my fingers are sore. It does feel good to play harder, though.
I watched Resident Evil: Afterlife. Meh. Alice had definitely gotten too powerful in the later movies, so wiping out her clones and disabling her T Virus was necessary. But the way they did it was way too convenient. Plus even without her powers she managed to do some inhuman things, like kicking a pane of glass perfectly into a dog. Anyway, it's not real so whatever.
I watched The Secret. Pretty good movie, I think they could have presented it in a more engaging way, but I agree with its message.
I'm a pretty positive guy, but I think with Brad as an example and after watching The Secret, I can use some work becoming even more positive. Focus more on the good qualities of people rather than what I wish they wouldn't do. Also I'd like to test out the law of attraction and see if I can make some random goals appear.
Bob is visiting! And Drewseph is back! Time for sushi buffet!
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
The Importance of Identity
Look at the role models we have. What are the qualities we admire about them? Their achievements? Their passion? Their morals? Their courage? These are the same things girls look for.
Having a strong identity demonstrates these qualities just by living your life. For example, look at Michael Jordan. He's famous, he's rich. Okay, what else? He's hard working. He's influential. He's athletic. He's done incredible feats, winning championship after championship. Does he need to learn techniques to attract chicks? No, his identity does most of the work for him.
Now, if he had lots of beta qualities, if he is shy, gets bossed around by everyone, dressed like a schlob, maybe he needs to learn some techniques. But I can guarantee that his results will skyrocket with such a strong identity.
Of course, Michael Jordan didn't get to where he is today by being beta. All those things we're trying to learn, all those techniques, are just copied from alpha males. Guys with strong identities.
Besides making you attractive, having a strong identity can create a lifestyle where chicks just flow into your life. If you were a musician, a hair stylist, a photographer, etc. chicks will just come into your life. You wouldn't even need to cold approach.
Conveying alpha qualities without an identity takes a lot of time and energy. You have to show a false time constraint instead of having an actual busy life. You have to generate social proof by talking to everyone in the club instead of rolling in with your own entourage.
That's why we want you to have a strong identity. To be an alpha male. You can just be yourself.
I don't develop my identity for chicks. I do it for myself. I want to do fun, cool things and have a sense of achievement. I want to rock out on stage at Madison Square Garden in front of a million people one day. Yeah, that'd be cool.
Yes, girls will come along, and that's part of the reason I play the bass. But I also love the bass. If I had to do something I hated in order to get laid, I'd be fucking chicks with anger and frustration. I don't know about you, but that seems really counterproductive.
Pursue your passions. Try shit out. I've tried being a software programmer, video gamer, snowboarder, raw vegan, yogi, bartender, photographer, hippie, bassist, guitarist, world traveller, Buddhist. Some I still am, some didn't work out.
I suspect a lot of guys want to get good at chicks to find fulfillment in their lives. They learn techniques, start getting girls, then find they're still unfulfilled, just getting laid. Having a strong identity can help not only your game, but your life.
Having a strong identity demonstrates these qualities just by living your life. For example, look at Michael Jordan. He's famous, he's rich. Okay, what else? He's hard working. He's influential. He's athletic. He's done incredible feats, winning championship after championship. Does he need to learn techniques to attract chicks? No, his identity does most of the work for him.
Now, if he had lots of beta qualities, if he is shy, gets bossed around by everyone, dressed like a schlob, maybe he needs to learn some techniques. But I can guarantee that his results will skyrocket with such a strong identity.
Of course, Michael Jordan didn't get to where he is today by being beta. All those things we're trying to learn, all those techniques, are just copied from alpha males. Guys with strong identities.
Besides making you attractive, having a strong identity can create a lifestyle where chicks just flow into your life. If you were a musician, a hair stylist, a photographer, etc. chicks will just come into your life. You wouldn't even need to cold approach.
Conveying alpha qualities without an identity takes a lot of time and energy. You have to show a false time constraint instead of having an actual busy life. You have to generate social proof by talking to everyone in the club instead of rolling in with your own entourage.
That's why we want you to have a strong identity. To be an alpha male. You can just be yourself.
I don't develop my identity for chicks. I do it for myself. I want to do fun, cool things and have a sense of achievement. I want to rock out on stage at Madison Square Garden in front of a million people one day. Yeah, that'd be cool.
Yes, girls will come along, and that's part of the reason I play the bass. But I also love the bass. If I had to do something I hated in order to get laid, I'd be fucking chicks with anger and frustration. I don't know about you, but that seems really counterproductive.
Pursue your passions. Try shit out. I've tried being a software programmer, video gamer, snowboarder, raw vegan, yogi, bartender, photographer, hippie, bassist, guitarist, world traveller, Buddhist. Some I still am, some didn't work out.
I suspect a lot of guys want to get good at chicks to find fulfillment in their lives. They learn techniques, start getting girls, then find they're still unfulfilled, just getting laid. Having a strong identity can help not only your game, but your life.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Testosterone Advantage Plan notes
I just calculated what I need to eat according to the testosterone advantage plan:
1. Your weight in pounds: 135
2. Your basic calorie needs (line 1 X 11): 1485
3. Your metabolic factor (sedentary/moderate/active aged under 30: 30%/40%/50%, 30-40: 25%/35%/45%, 40+: 20%/30%/40%) X line 2: 519.75
4. Your maintenance diet (line 2 + 3): 2004.75
Subtract 1,000 calories/day to lose 2 pounds a week, add 500 calories/day to add a pound of muscle a week.
I need to eat .91g protein per pound of weight: 123g
Each gram of protein has about 4 calories, so that's 492 calories of protein.
(2004.75 - 492)/2 = 756 calories of fat and carbs.
A gram of fat has 9 calories: 756 cal / 9 = 85g fat
A gram of carbs has 4 calories: 756 cal / 4 = 190g carbs
So, to maintain my 135 pound, 2,000 cal/day body while building muscle, removing the little fat I have, and increasing testosterone:
123g protein
85g fat
190g carbs
Drink lots of water.
Consume monounsaturated fats (olive/canola oils, macadamia nuts), polyunsaturated fats such as omega-3 (fish) and omega-6 (plants). Saturated fats are not as good but still provide some benefits. Avoid trans fats.
Protein:
Best: dairy (especially cottage cheese), eggs, beef, pork, poultry, fish, oats, nuts, soy protein.
Next best: beans, seeds, cornmeal
Worst: white or wheat bread, peas, rice, potatoes, pasta, gelatin
The carbs section has too much information to fit here. In general low-glycemic foods (fruits, veggies, legumes) are better than high-glycemic foods (most processed carbs, bread, cereal). Surprisingly pasta has a low glycemic index. Fructose (fruit sugar) has a lower GI than sucrose (table sugar). Eat high GI food only after workout.
Eat breakfast, snack before each workout, eat immediately after a workout.
Do strength training and vary it so the body doesn't get efficient at a particular activity.
1. Your weight in pounds: 135
2. Your basic calorie needs (line 1 X 11): 1485
3. Your metabolic factor (sedentary/moderate/active aged under 30: 30%/40%/50%, 30-40: 25%/35%/45%, 40+: 20%/30%/40%) X line 2: 519.75
4. Your maintenance diet (line 2 + 3): 2004.75
Subtract 1,000 calories/day to lose 2 pounds a week, add 500 calories/day to add a pound of muscle a week.
I need to eat .91g protein per pound of weight: 123g
Each gram of protein has about 4 calories, so that's 492 calories of protein.
(2004.75 - 492)/2 = 756 calories of fat and carbs.
A gram of fat has 9 calories: 756 cal / 9 = 85g fat
A gram of carbs has 4 calories: 756 cal / 4 = 190g carbs
So, to maintain my 135 pound, 2,000 cal/day body while building muscle, removing the little fat I have, and increasing testosterone:
123g protein
85g fat
190g carbs
Drink lots of water.
Consume monounsaturated fats (olive/canola oils, macadamia nuts), polyunsaturated fats such as omega-3 (fish) and omega-6 (plants). Saturated fats are not as good but still provide some benefits. Avoid trans fats.
Protein:
Best: dairy (especially cottage cheese), eggs, beef, pork, poultry, fish, oats, nuts, soy protein.
Next best: beans, seeds, cornmeal
Worst: white or wheat bread, peas, rice, potatoes, pasta, gelatin
The carbs section has too much information to fit here. In general low-glycemic foods (fruits, veggies, legumes) are better than high-glycemic foods (most processed carbs, bread, cereal). Surprisingly pasta has a low glycemic index. Fructose (fruit sugar) has a lower GI than sucrose (table sugar). Eat high GI food only after workout.
Eat breakfast, snack before each workout, eat immediately after a workout.
Do strength training and vary it so the body doesn't get efficient at a particular activity.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Happy Valentine's Day!
LA Phil and I were discussing avoiding our rotation chicks on V Day to avoid giving the wrong impression. So I spent the day taking care of myself.
Wrote another list of goals for today. As I am writing this, all 12 items are checked off. I feel productive!
Did the primary series up to the balance poses. Most of the time has been spent relearning poses. I hope to have a solid understanding of the entire primary series by the time I leave LA.
I ate a bunch of guacamole to provide fat and protein to build muscle afterward.
I meditated for a full 31 minutes, though I did peek when there were 7 minutes left. Full lotus.
Mailed W her laptop. Thanks!
Went grocery shopping barefoot. People gave me looks but nobody said anything or stopped me in any way. I'm starting to get money-conscious while shopping for food as well, buying what's healthy and cheap.
Got a Brita filter. The water at my apartment has a distinctive taste, and I'm not sure it's healthy. The water tastes much better now.
Read another chapter on How to Win Friends and Influence People. I gave a few people genuine compliments. It's getting easier to recognize the inherent awesomeness in people. Now I need to learn to arouse enthusiasm in others.
My kombucha scoby is becoming big and strong. I just gave it another helping of tea and sugar. It's aliiiiiiive!
Called a bunch of places to get my teeth checked for free. All the free places are booked for at least a month. Oh well.
Did a few wall-assisted handstand pushups. I want to do freestanding handstands!
Played the bass a bit. Played the C major scale at a different rhythm than I'm used to, which was challenging and interesting.
Wrote another list of goals for today. As I am writing this, all 12 items are checked off. I feel productive!
Did the primary series up to the balance poses. Most of the time has been spent relearning poses. I hope to have a solid understanding of the entire primary series by the time I leave LA.
I ate a bunch of guacamole to provide fat and protein to build muscle afterward.
I meditated for a full 31 minutes, though I did peek when there were 7 minutes left. Full lotus.
Mailed W her laptop. Thanks!
Went grocery shopping barefoot. People gave me looks but nobody said anything or stopped me in any way. I'm starting to get money-conscious while shopping for food as well, buying what's healthy and cheap.
Got a Brita filter. The water at my apartment has a distinctive taste, and I'm not sure it's healthy. The water tastes much better now.
Read another chapter on How to Win Friends and Influence People. I gave a few people genuine compliments. It's getting easier to recognize the inherent awesomeness in people. Now I need to learn to arouse enthusiasm in others.
My kombucha scoby is becoming big and strong. I just gave it another helping of tea and sugar. It's aliiiiiiive!
Called a bunch of places to get my teeth checked for free. All the free places are booked for at least a month. Oh well.
Did a few wall-assisted handstand pushups. I want to do freestanding handstands!
Played the bass a bit. Played the C major scale at a different rhythm than I'm used to, which was challenging and interesting.
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Friday - Sunday
Friday I walked 5.5 miles to the dentist, but there was an all-staff meeting and anyway walk-ins are for emergencies. I walked back barefoot to keep things interesting.
Midway home LA Phil invited me to lunch. We had Indian. I had a salad. He went to a dentist and dropped me off at USC. I walked around campus, said hi to a few chicks, but mostly read and watched people. A friend spotted me and came over. We chatted until LA Phil was done.
I told LA Phil that I’ve been feeling a little depressed when I am alone. When with my buddies I’m fine. I believed it was because I’ve been eating healthier and I am detoxing all my drugs and alcohol. He suggested that I didn’t have clear goals. Which is true, since I don’t live a goal-oriented life. He suggested an exercise, writing my goals and resources to reach them down.
I wanted to criticize a mansion resident but instead found something good to say about him. We wound up talking about what I wanted to criticize anyway, but in an objective way. I told LA Phil about how I’m trying to withhold criticism and lavish praise, bringing up that I’ve never seen Brad criticize anyone, and that I wanted to adapt that quality.
LA Phil dropped me off and I passed out.
I woke up and met up with some guys to go to a friend’s show. I ate half a Subway sandwich. The show was awesome, I hope they make it big. We went to an afterparty, where I caught up with Turbo, whom I hadn't seen in a while. I ate another footlong to replenish the energy spent from all that walking.
Saturday I practiced yoga. I did both sun salutations according to the detailed instructions from a web site. By the end of it I was hot and sweaty and stopped.
I ate at home the whole day, making green smoothies and eating guacamole. It feels good to eat healthy and save money.
Icebreaker came over and we chatted a bit. He invited me out but I didn’t have the urge. I just wanted to stay home and work on myself.
I re-read The Gift. It inspired me to start a slow and tedious task, but I did it with passion, and that’s all that matters.
Sunday I woke up at 8:30 am. I’ve already set my alarm to 9 am but I keep waking earlier every day. I love it. I get so much more productive waking up early.
I wrote a todo list for the first time in a while. There’s something satisfying about checking things off a paper list.
I practiced yoga, carefully according to the web site, up to the reverse triangle pose. Pose by pose I am re-learning everything.
I meditated for 25 minutes. I can now meditate in a full lotus with either leg on top. In time I expect my legs to open up more and be in less pain in the beginning.
I made a green smoothie with my remaining kale and spinach.
I did handstand pushups with wall assistance every hour or so. The pushups don’t go all the way down, but it’s a start.
Practiced the bass. It feels good to play again.
I ran some errands barefoot. Such liberation.
And with this, I have another item checked off my list!
Midway home LA Phil invited me to lunch. We had Indian. I had a salad. He went to a dentist and dropped me off at USC. I walked around campus, said hi to a few chicks, but mostly read and watched people. A friend spotted me and came over. We chatted until LA Phil was done.
I told LA Phil that I’ve been feeling a little depressed when I am alone. When with my buddies I’m fine. I believed it was because I’ve been eating healthier and I am detoxing all my drugs and alcohol. He suggested that I didn’t have clear goals. Which is true, since I don’t live a goal-oriented life. He suggested an exercise, writing my goals and resources to reach them down.
I wanted to criticize a mansion resident but instead found something good to say about him. We wound up talking about what I wanted to criticize anyway, but in an objective way. I told LA Phil about how I’m trying to withhold criticism and lavish praise, bringing up that I’ve never seen Brad criticize anyone, and that I wanted to adapt that quality.
LA Phil dropped me off and I passed out.
I woke up and met up with some guys to go to a friend’s show. I ate half a Subway sandwich. The show was awesome, I hope they make it big. We went to an afterparty, where I caught up with Turbo, whom I hadn't seen in a while. I ate another footlong to replenish the energy spent from all that walking.
Saturday I practiced yoga. I did both sun salutations according to the detailed instructions from a web site. By the end of it I was hot and sweaty and stopped.
I ate at home the whole day, making green smoothies and eating guacamole. It feels good to eat healthy and save money.
Icebreaker came over and we chatted a bit. He invited me out but I didn’t have the urge. I just wanted to stay home and work on myself.
I re-read The Gift. It inspired me to start a slow and tedious task, but I did it with passion, and that’s all that matters.
Sunday I woke up at 8:30 am. I’ve already set my alarm to 9 am but I keep waking earlier every day. I love it. I get so much more productive waking up early.
I wrote a todo list for the first time in a while. There’s something satisfying about checking things off a paper list.
I practiced yoga, carefully according to the web site, up to the reverse triangle pose. Pose by pose I am re-learning everything.
I meditated for 25 minutes. I can now meditate in a full lotus with either leg on top. In time I expect my legs to open up more and be in less pain in the beginning.
I made a green smoothie with my remaining kale and spinach.
I did handstand pushups with wall assistance every hour or so. The pushups don’t go all the way down, but it’s a start.
Practiced the bass. It feels good to play again.
I ran some errands barefoot. Such liberation.
And with this, I have another item checked off my list!
Friday, February 11, 2011
Better recognize!
How to Win Friends and Influence People recommends reviewing each week, keeping track of what I've done right, what I could have done better, etc. It's probably a good idea for my personal identity development as well. Here we go:
Social:
I criticized one of the new mansion guys's game behind his back. I should have focused on his positive qualities instead of the negative.
I gave a genuine compliment to my rotation chick.
My dad called and was doing his usual lecturing. I held back criticism and praised when I could.
Went to a Toastmasters meeting.
Haven't been approaching chicks much. Haven't been on 30/30 much. Busy with everything else.
Health:
I got tested for a whole battery of STDs. So far so good. Physical and dental checkups in the works.
I've been eating healthier still. Even at the Superbowl party I ate minimal junk food, sticking to guacamole and fruit mostly.
Most days I exercise at least once, whether it's hiking 11 miles or doing yoga.
Today I read up on the correct way to do sun salutations and practiced a few times. It's more intense and effective than how I've been doing it for months.
Haven't meditated much recently. I had two really long meditative walks, and a 15 minute session today as I was trying to relieve a dehydration headache, but ideally I would meditate daily.
Identity:
Continuing my bass lessons, but other stuff in my life have cut into my practice. Momentum has slowed. I should practice daily at least. I've been doing a lot of ear training, though progress has been slow.
I called a band for an audition but timing wasn't right.
Money:
I've been spending a lot on healthy food. I should stick to supermarkets when eating by myself.
I'm growing my own kombucha. This should save a bundle.
Misc:
Gave away a bunch of stuff on Freecycle. My room is still messy, though. Time to throw some shit out and clean.
Social:
I criticized one of the new mansion guys's game behind his back. I should have focused on his positive qualities instead of the negative.
I gave a genuine compliment to my rotation chick.
My dad called and was doing his usual lecturing. I held back criticism and praised when I could.
Went to a Toastmasters meeting.
Haven't been approaching chicks much. Haven't been on 30/30 much. Busy with everything else.
Health:
I got tested for a whole battery of STDs. So far so good. Physical and dental checkups in the works.
I've been eating healthier still. Even at the Superbowl party I ate minimal junk food, sticking to guacamole and fruit mostly.
Most days I exercise at least once, whether it's hiking 11 miles or doing yoga.
Today I read up on the correct way to do sun salutations and practiced a few times. It's more intense and effective than how I've been doing it for months.
Haven't meditated much recently. I had two really long meditative walks, and a 15 minute session today as I was trying to relieve a dehydration headache, but ideally I would meditate daily.
Identity:
Continuing my bass lessons, but other stuff in my life have cut into my practice. Momentum has slowed. I should practice daily at least. I've been doing a lot of ear training, though progress has been slow.
I called a band for an audition but timing wasn't right.
Money:
I've been spending a lot on healthy food. I should stick to supermarkets when eating by myself.
I'm growing my own kombucha. This should save a bundle.
Misc:
Gave away a bunch of stuff on Freecycle. My room is still messy, though. Time to throw some shit out and clean.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Feb 2011 Update
Wow, it's already been 2011 for a month.
So I've been focusing on my identity a lot the past few weeks. Taking bass lessons, jamming with friends, absorbing as much as I can while my motivation is high. Autolico gave me his bass amp so I'm happy, though I wish we could have jammed before he left. Oh well, I have a feeling I'll be seeing him again.
Been helping my friend Icebreaker out, cleaning his stuff which had been through a fire. Volunteer work is good for the soul. This isn't so bad, huh? Makin' bucks, gettin' exercise, workin' outside. Fuckin' A.
Became straight-edge. Stopped drinking, smoking (cigarettes, etc), consuming caffeine. Like when I was in Seattle, it made me sick of the bar scene. I no longer enjoy being in the company of drunks and stoners. I'm eating healthier and started doing yoga again. It's a virtuous cycle.
Spent a lot of time moving shit out of my old laptop and into my iPad. One less item to lug around, and it can be in better hands.
I have one chick on rotation, and mostly been doing social circle gaming. I do cold approaches here and there, but I haven't been intensely at it for a while. I see my chick once or twice a week, it's super low maintenance and so relaxing. We just hang out, chat a little, fuck, and she leaves.
It's Chinese New Year today. My dad called me to wish me a good year and hoped I would shape up and do something with my life. I told him I already am. He didn't see it that way. We got into a bit of an argument, but nothing too bad. He said he couldn't believe his son would grow up to be like this. That hurt a little.
I've been rereading How to Win Friends and Influence People. This time I am trying to go through it slowly, implementing it fully and focusing one chapter at a time, like the book recommends.
As a musician I've come to realize I need to network better, and not just try to fuck every chick I approach. Definitely a change in behavior for me, since I rarely network with people. I mean I definitely could, I just haven't put the effort in.
Happy New Year!
So I've been focusing on my identity a lot the past few weeks. Taking bass lessons, jamming with friends, absorbing as much as I can while my motivation is high. Autolico gave me his bass amp so I'm happy, though I wish we could have jammed before he left. Oh well, I have a feeling I'll be seeing him again.
Been helping my friend Icebreaker out, cleaning his stuff which had been through a fire. Volunteer work is good for the soul. This isn't so bad, huh? Makin' bucks, gettin' exercise, workin' outside. Fuckin' A.
Became straight-edge. Stopped drinking, smoking (cigarettes, etc), consuming caffeine. Like when I was in Seattle, it made me sick of the bar scene. I no longer enjoy being in the company of drunks and stoners. I'm eating healthier and started doing yoga again. It's a virtuous cycle.
Spent a lot of time moving shit out of my old laptop and into my iPad. One less item to lug around, and it can be in better hands.
I have one chick on rotation, and mostly been doing social circle gaming. I do cold approaches here and there, but I haven't been intensely at it for a while. I see my chick once or twice a week, it's super low maintenance and so relaxing. We just hang out, chat a little, fuck, and she leaves.
It's Chinese New Year today. My dad called me to wish me a good year and hoped I would shape up and do something with my life. I told him I already am. He didn't see it that way. We got into a bit of an argument, but nothing too bad. He said he couldn't believe his son would grow up to be like this. That hurt a little.
I've been rereading How to Win Friends and Influence People. This time I am trying to go through it slowly, implementing it fully and focusing one chapter at a time, like the book recommends.
As a musician I've come to realize I need to network better, and not just try to fuck every chick I approach. Definitely a change in behavior for me, since I rarely network with people. I mean I definitely could, I just haven't put the effort in.
Happy New Year!
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